To Be or Not To Be
A little kingdom I possess,
Where thoughts and feelings dwell;
And very hard the task I find
Of governing it well.
-- Louisa May Alcott.
...........hmmm....that more or less describes my situation !!
~A Wise Man Said~
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
~When in Lancaster~
Life as PhD Student
Encyclopedia of Philosophy
Monday, May 27, 2002
Read a very interesting article that was linked on a fellow blogger’s site. I would not have read it, had it not been recommended to me by a good friend. He felt it was very well written and I must say I can't agree more with him.
It is about men, women, and cheating. Why is it that men can be expected to cheat for no reason whatever whereas women have to provide worthy reasons for doing so? If a woman is unhappy in her marriage or she is ill treated, it is understandable, that she cheats. But if she is in a perfectly normal functioning relationship, it would be considered ghastly if she strayed, whereas for the man, it would be considered ok, natural, etc.
This is what the article said and I couldn't deny the truth of it. That we expect women to have higher standards than men and are not so accommodating of her weaknesses; infact, are not even ready to accept that she could have the same weaknesses as men. We expect her to justify those weaknesses with worthy motives.
Till this point I was with the author, but from here on began my doubts. I was a little confused as to what she was driving at. I wasn't sure I agreed with her moral tack. If she was saying that since the men were allowed a freer hand in the matter, the women should have it too; I had a problem.
To me, cheating is cheating, whether a man does it or a woman. Men and women may or may not cheat for the same reasons (need for variety or emotional fulfillment), but whatever it is, it cannot be deemed as "worthy".
A woman's straying cannot be justified by saying that half the men in the world were straying. Infact, I would say that the woman was doing something very, very wrong. But the same goes for the men too. The treatment that is meted out to the woman, the same should be meted out to the men too. Without any bias whatsoever.
I feel that the moral issue should be given as grave a consideration as the gender one, and in no way can one be compromised in favour of the other.