To Be or Not To Be

A little kingdom I possess,
Where thoughts and feelings dwell;
And very hard the task I find
Of governing it well.
-- Louisa May Alcott.
...........hmmm....that more or less describes my situation !!

~A Wise Man Said~

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
-- Aristotle

Friday, February 14, 2003
14th Feb...

Have heard so much about the controversies surrounding the celebration of this day; let me give my own understanding of the matter.

I for one have nothing against people celebrating their love for each other on this day. The argument I have come across most often is that those who are in love or have affection for each other, do not need a day to express it. They can express it anyday and everyday. True. I would wholeheartedly agree. Neither would anyone stop any others from expressing themselves on other days of the year. But in the same breath, I should also like to know, why do we celebrate any occasion at all, on one particular day? Why don't we celebrate Christmas everyday, surely we should be able to express our love for God everyday of the year, and rejoice, everyday of the year? Why do we celebrate Independence Day on the 15th August, surely we're happy to be free everyday of the year? Why can't we celebrate it everyday then? Why don't we celebrate our birthday every day of the year - surely everyday that we are alive gives us a fresh occasion to celebrate?

The reason, it seems to me, is not that we are immune to these feelings on other days of the year, not that we forget about Christ or about Independence or the miracle of our own birth, on other days of the year; but that we choose one day to come together in a spirit of celebration and make merry over it.

What day we choose to do so or whether we choose a particular day at all, is beside the point. It is just that, humans as we are, we cannot have enough reasons to be happy, to be merry -- and since we cannot be so everyday of our lives --we choose particular days, particular occasions. Sometimes I wonder how our lives would have been if there were no Christmases, no Diwalis, no New Years, no Ids...I cannot even envision such or maybe it is an impossible scenario, for if we had none of these festivals, we would have invented others. Just as we invented Valentine's day. I do know there is a history behind this day, but one that is so far removed from its present day connotations that it is almost indistinguishable.

Another objection to these celebrations that I've heard oft-repeated is the "crass commercialisation" that centers around them. The cards and chocolates and flowers that get sold by the truckloads. Well! No one ever heard of not celebrating Christmas because people were making money by selling Christmas trees; no one ever made any noise over sweetshops making double the profits during Diwali! Does the commercialisation of an event tell against the event or against the growing materialistic tendencies of society in general? Will stopping the celebration of this event in any way effect a change in the values of businesses? If it did, then maybe we should.

People may have their own reasons for celebrating this day (and what better reason than that it makes them happy!) and people may have their own reasons for choosing not to (and am sure very valid too)...I certainly do not believe that people should celebrate something they do not believe in celebrating, but I also wouldn't understand, if they should impose their belief on those who do wish to...

Anyway, to put an end to my arguments and get down to the point:- Here's wishing everyone a very Happy Valentine's Day!!