To Be or Not To Be

A little kingdom I possess,
Where thoughts and feelings dwell;
And very hard the task I find
Of governing it well.
-- Louisa May Alcott.
...........hmmm....that more or less describes my situation !!

~A Wise Man Said~

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
-- Aristotle

Thursday, January 05, 2012
Okayyy. Let me get the wishes out of the way first.

Happy Christmas.
Happy New Year.
Happy 10th blog anniversary (to me).

I had meant to do all these wishes at the right time, if not in advance, but a LOT has been happening. A ‘first’ wedding in my family. My sister’s to be specific. On New Year’s eve, no less. And the preamble to the wedding, as is usual in all such cases, started many months ago. I’m glad we’re over the wedding and into the marriage… that which really counts :)

It always strikes me how much we plan and prepare and anticipate and deliberate over the wedding ceremony. We want it to be perfect and lovely and want the guests to have a good time and have good things to say about how well it was organised and how much they were taken care of. We stress over every little thing till the last minute — the decorations, the food, the dress, the toast, the invites and what not… sometimes I wonder if we pay equal attention to ‘after’ the wedding or we prepare as much for life after the wedding, the beginning of which we actually celebrate with all the song and dance. I also wonder if we get to really, really think about and prepare in our hearts and minds for the life we are about to enter, because we are so busy planning and plotting over the frilly and unnecessary details… I sometimes wish weddings could be done differently… if it could be a celebration in the real sense of the word for only the two people who have found each other, who have decided to pledge their life to each other, who wish to spend the rest of their lives together, and who want to celebrate that moment, that journey, that first step together…