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Wednesday, April 26, 2017
Among the many reasons why people believe we have been dropped here on
earth, one reason continues to present itself to me with frightening
regularity: it is to teach us lessons. I am not quite sure of the end goal of
learning those lessons; whether they are skills that would come in handy in
heaven or whether we are given a chance to conduct ourselves better in our next
lives, or whatever else it might be, the fact remains that you can’t
mistake the lessons that keep punching you in the face. There’s no ignoring
them even if one tried, and I do try, to put it mildly. And I do get punched in
the face often, and hard.
In the present case, I am still reeling a bit. I have this habit of letting
my love of arguing get the better of me. By get the better of me I don’t mean
that I become quarrelsome or nasty or try to win at all costs, but I try to
push the argument as far as it will go without considering who my opponent is. By ‘who’ I mean it doesn’t matter to me if the
opponent is a friend, an enemy, a senior, a junior, a peer, a president, a
cobbler, a king, an expert or a novice. This also means that in the context of
an argument I meet the opponent as an equal and the validity of an argument to
me rests purely on the weight and logic of the arguments themselves and not on who
the respective parties are; if who they are, for example an expert, is relevant
it would get reflected in the strength of argument itself and if it doesn’t, it
doesn’t matter because knowledge or truth unfortunately does not bow to age or
status or qualifications. Well as all this sounds in theory I have learnt that there are some categories of people who are more than happy to
call you out for a bout of argument but are not comfortable when you argue with
them as if who they are doesn’t matter! It is almost as if they are offended
that you are not taking into account their very many years of experience,
expert status, accomplishments, official accolades and all of the rest, and the
little chit of a person that you are with none of all this grandiosity attached,
dare to argue with them as if you are their equal! They are shocked at your presumptuousness!
They have come to believe that the argument is only as good as the arguer and
the arguer having made it in the world should at least now be able to put up
their feet and not keep having to prove their position with troublesome
arguments. Why, then, do you ask, do they invite you or provoke you to have a
debate because everything they have to say is proven and nothing you have to
say can match it? Indeed, why. Well, that’s where my lessons come in. I have time
and again been misled into situations where I have had the horror of realising
that the person who appeared to love a dialogue for the pleasure of knowledge
or truth was actually not expecting someone to have an equal say at all… Most people
quickly get a sense of this and play by the rules… but I have yet to learn.
A thing that most struck me is that a person who reaches a certain position
in life through long years of study in a subject may indeed claim to be an
expert in it but just because someone else has not reached the same position
cannot simply assume that that person lacks the intellect to grapple with or
the understanding to grasp the subject. The fact that a person was able to achieve
an exalted position may reflect on their abilities but it is not pure abilities
and talent that take a person where they are (it would be extremely naïve to
think so)…and by the same logic, if a person isn’t in the same league as you it
may say less about their natural abilities and more about their opportunities
and circumstances. We don’t know. But, the arguments stripped away from all those
externalities and entrapments should be able to stand on their own if they come
from a position of real strength. The desire to gag the supposedly weak would
suggest the opposite.
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