Is it better to belong to a not-so-prestigious club that truly wants you and values you or to one that is way more prestigious but where they do not recognise or appreciate your value? On the one hand just being a part of the prestigious club signals your value to other people, you do not really have to prove it or flaunt it, it’s a badge in itself. On the other hand, you might not be deemed to be the thing if you are in the not-so-prestigious club, you might be able to prove it with your efforts but it would take effort and cannot be expected as a matter of course. However, in the prestigious club you are always among people who never really wanted you, if you are there or not there, they couldn’t care less, nor do they care about the value you bring to their club. In the non-prestigious one, they know you are worth your weight in gold and they feel lucky to have you. So, which one would you opt for…? A long time ago a friend of mine told me that it is better to go for the one who loves you rather than whom you love. At the time, I couldn’t quite see the sense in it. But linking it to this situation, now that I think about it, it seems as if it might be far more painful to be in a club that doesn’t want you… the one who wants you would appear to see the real you, to go beneath the surface of things to find what is truly inside there, and in that sense it is so much more capable of holding you the way you deserve… but the one who doesn’t is too full of its own importance to see beyond it to what is there in you, it will never accept you, far from embracing you… what would be the point of flaunting its membership?